“I want someone who understands me. I want someone who can make me happy. I want someone I can relate to.”
When you analyse all your requirements for a partner, you realise one thing: you’re actually looking for an empath. In a relationship, you need someone with great intelligence. You want someone who can understand your emotions and respond to them.
I’m not talking about that person who always has that “sensitive” look on his face. You don’t want the act. Judith Orloff, MD wrote an entire book on this matter. It’s called The Empath Survival Guide: Life Strategies of Sensitive People. According to her definition, an empath takes sensitivity to a whole other level. They can sense and absorb subtle energy from other people. They experience their emotions and sensations just as they would experience their own.
Why would you want such a partner? For many reasons. Let’s list few of them:
1. An empath has a huge heart
Empaths have a profound connection with other people, but also with animals and the entire nature. This is the opposite character of a narcissist. Instead of being concerned about themselves, they are concerned about others, and the partner is high on the list of priorities.
An empath is a big-hearted person, who cannot stand the suffering of other people. They will always do their best to relieve the pain of a crying child, a homeless person, or a sad friend. Sometimes they give so much that they feel drained by the end of the day. However, this is a genuinely good person and you’ll certainly be happy to have them.
2. They know how to deal with problems
The empath’s heart is easy to get broken. They feel and trust so much that they don’t expect other people to do them harm. When they are hurt, however, they know how to emerge out of the experience as a stronger person.
You won’t hear an empath say, “I’ve done everything for you and this is the way you’re giving back? You don’t deserve anything from me anymore!” No. They will defend themselves, but they will never regret giving. They will find a way to resurrect from a bad experience and continue without the need for revenge.
3. They practically read you
Are you tired of explaining and justifying your feelings? Well, you won’t have to do that with an empath. They can “sense your energy,” so they will understand when and why you’re upset even when you don’t say a word. You won’t have to explain yourself to them.
Maybe they won’t agree with you and they will share their own point of view, but they will still understand why you feel the way you feel.
4. They will get you outside
An empath cannot thrive in the usual office environment. They can certainly be great at office jobs, but they will want to keep the connection with nature alive. When you have an empath as a partner, they will motivate you to explore the world and use nature to nourish and restore yourself.
You’ll get a tad more adventurous, and you’ll probably have to make friends with their pets.
5. They love deeply and passionately
Maggie Smith, a writer for BestEssays, shares her experience about being loved by an empath: “This was the first time I felt truly, deeply loved. I’ve had my share of relationships with narcissists and abusive people, and this was a completely different experience. His was showing the same attention and love years into the relationship.”
An empath will reinvent your understanding of love. They will not only support you through everything, but they will also help you grow with them. Their love will make you a better person.
6. They live life with full intensity
Empaths are often misunderstood as people who stay alone in front of their computer, feeling sorry for everyone and everything. They are not like that. They are sensitive, but they also act. When they see a problem in the world, they will want to be part of the solution. They will donate money, join a cause to increase awareness, or even help the affected people directly.
Their life is intense and they always have a cause to fight for. This doesn’t mean they are neglecting the partner. The love of their life has a special place in their Universe.
7. They are passionate
Sensitivity is not enough, is it? You want passion, too. You shouldn’t feel guilty about that. Without passionate attraction, you’ll inevitably come to the point of the relationship when you feel stuck. You don’t have to worry about that when your partner is an empath.
As anyone else, they will have low points, too. However, they often relate their ability to connect with your emotional needs with their sexuality. The result? A great experience you’ll never forget.
8. They need some independence
And so do you! Be honest: you don’t want an overly attached partner. You don’t need them to know where you are at any point of the day. You don’t want a scene for not answering the phone because you were having a drink with your friends. The empath won’t be overly attached.
They need their alone time, so they can recharge and reconnect with themselves. Naturally, they will provide the same luxury for you.
9. An empath can certainly communicate
You’ll never be ignored when you’re in a relationship with an empath. When you need to talk about something, they will listen to you. They will share their own feelings and thoughts. They will communicate in a healthy way, so you can come to a middle ground.
No matter how busy the empath is, they will always find time to keep the connection with their partner alive. Understand and communicate is their way of solving problems.
10. They are loyal
Are you worried that the empath can connect with anyone? You’re worried that they will soon find a new love interest? Don’t be! This is an honest person. The last thing they want to do is hurt someone they love. They are extremely loyal in serious relationships, and they expect the same level of devotion in return.
After reading all this, you probably think that an empath is a perfect partner for you. You know what? This is the perfect partner for almost everyone. Do these people even exist? Well, a real empath is hard to find, but they are definitely out there. Maybe you’ll want to work on your own emotional intelligence first? When you become the type of person you want to attract, the Universe will work in your favour.
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Author: Warren Fowler
Warren is a marketing enthusiast and a blogger at BestEssays, who loves music. If he doesn’t have a guitar in his hands, he’s probably embracing new technologies and marketing techniques online! You can meet him on Twitter and Facebook.
