Focusing solely on physical appearance when describing an attractive person misses the mark because a person who is good-looking but not good in heart, mind and spirit quickly loses his or her lustre.

If you desire to increase your attractiveness in a way that naturally draws others to want to be your friend, admire you and confide in you, you should aim to achieve an authentic personality rather than a perfect face and body.

Being an undeniably and irresistibly attractive human being is not as difficult as you may think. You can get your journey well underway simply by living as the best person you can be as often as you are able to do so.

Consider these 15 tips as you begin the process of enhancing the attractiveness that is inherent within yourself.

1. Be a source of support and love for others

People have an affinity toward those who offer unwavering support and love not only during hard times but also in daily life. Let others know that you are there for them in good times and bad by projecting a loving, warm and attentive personality. Your attractiveness as a source of support will be readily acknowledged.

2. Remain steadfast in your honesty and trustworthiness

Honest insight, when delivered with a gentle and well-meaning tone, is a trait that many people value in those to whom they naturally gravitate. In a broader sense, establishing yourself as an honest and trustworthy friend, partner or colleague lets others know that they can confidently approach you for advice and guidance on a number of topics.

3. Strive to do what is right and good

Increase your appeal as a person by living a life that is dedicated to preserving what is right and good for humankind. Resolve to act in the best interests of individuals or groups who face hardships, and let the principles of renowned humanitarians serve as a moral code to follow. Be a good person, and you will inspire others.

4. Refrain from being judgmental, cruel or superficial

People are swiftly repelled by those who routinely pass harsh and unfounded judgments, make cruel comments, exhibit hurtful attitudes and use superficial factors to evaluate the worthiness of others. Try as hard as you can to resist acting in these manners, even if someone is unkind toward you first, and make yourself known as an accepting individual.

5. Project an air of positivity and light

Inject positive energy and optimism into all of your interactions, and your companionship is likely to be sought by many people who have the privilege of knowing you. Those who project negativity into the world discourage attraction, even if this is done subconsciously. Encourage others to see the “bright side” while displaying a sunny disposition.

6. Be gentle rather than forceful in your interactions

While confidence is a trait to admire, brashness and forcefulness in your communications with others is far more likely to inspire avoidance than attraction. Approach people with a gentle, warm and kind countenance, taking care to be genuine in your interactions. Be soft-spoken instead of abrasive and humble instead of arrogant.

7. Be happy with your distinctive self

If you worry that you will not be able to attract others due to your quirky, eccentric or otherwise distinctive personality, then be reassured that many people enjoy individuals who bring something different to the table. As long as you send the message that you are happy with your uniqueness, you have a great chance of drawing in potential friends.

8. Approach life with passion and enthusiasm 

Very few people are attracted to those who exhibit apathy toward relationships, hobbies, careers and other elements of daily life. Dive into your activities with passion and make friends with enthusiasm, and you will show the “spark” that motivates others to join in on your fun. Keep in mind that attractive people are not boring.

9. Welcome the opinions and insights of others

If you continually try to dominate all conversations and override the opinions of others with your own views, you are highly likely to soon find yourself isolated at social and professional events. Demonstrate that you are a caring, respectful and tolerant person by asking people what they think and gratefully taking their good advice.

10. Love and believe in yourself

The bright inner light that shines from self-love and belief in yourself is not only noticeable by the important people in your life but also inspires these individuals to seek you out as a frequent companion. People like to spend time with those who truly value their own self-worth and live their lives accordingly.

11. Keep an open mind regarding the present and future

Even though it’s always a good idea to have a general blueprint for your life, being too rigid, inflexible or closed-minded when it comes to your present and future paths can deter people from wanting to participate in your journeys. Show a willingness to consider new or spontaneous ideas, and others may well be energized in your presence.

12. Take great care of your body, mind and spirit

With self-love goes self-care, and people are organically drawn to those who are well-groomed, well-dressed, even-keeled and peaceful in spirit. Value your physical and emotional self by fueling your body with good foods and stimulating your mind with knowledge. Neglecting yourself in any of these capacities can easily make you go from attractive to unnoticeable.

13. Smile as often as possible

Although good physical features in and of themselves are not at all required in order to attract others, your smile is a great way to help strangers, acquaintances and potential love interests view you as friendly, approachable and fun. Smile widely and brightly whenever you desire to bring new people into your social, career or romantic life.

14. Maintain eye contact and listen well

Another physical aspect that encourages attraction is eye contact. People respond very well to those who look them straight in the eyes during a conversation. On the emotional side, ensure that you are really listening with your full attention when someone is speaking to you. Never appear distracted or disinterested when engaging with others.

15. Be open to giving and receiving physical affection

While it is definitely important to respect boundaries at all times and avoid going overboard with physical demonstrations of affection, small gestures can make a difference in whether or not people find you attractive and charismatic. Shake someone’s hand, offer a pat on the arm or shoulder, or give a quick hug to a friend whom you know well.

When striving to be an attractive person in both demeanour and actions, you can also benefit from observing the traits of other individuals who possess broadly appealing qualities. Examine the ways in which admired friends, family members, mentors or even people in the public eye exemplify the values of attractive beings, and think about how you can apply the best philosophies of these people to your own existence.

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Author: Nancy Burnett

Nancy, a Master Coach and Certified Professional Co-Active Life Coach (CPCC) has a passion for helping her clients to live vibrant, authentic and fulfilling lives; lives that are under their total control and which have been shaped in exactly the way they want. She believes that you can live a life that you love and that it is possible to manifest your dreams into reality.

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